Re: HELP MIL demamding
Asked by racechick23
my mother in law just called and told me that she is having my son for christmas and theres nothing i can do to stop her. and if thats not possible then she will be GA_googleFillSlot("minti_advice_island_logged_out_300x250"); spending it with us.
problem is , and iv told her this, we are having my family up for christmas as they want to spend damiens first with us.
she hasnt even contacted us at all through out the yr and only seen damien once for an hour before goin to the pub over the road. she doesnt try to bond with damien, he will never be called her grandson and he will never call her grandma iv made sure of that, i know it sounds harsh but she doesnt make an effort then expects everyone to drop everything just for her
i just need some help in dealing with her as i've had enough, even my partner has had enough of his mothers lack of interest.
any advice would be greatly appreciated
This is a sensitive subject, and I take it from what you wrote that you and your partners might not have a very close relationship with her?
Your husband needs to address the Christmas plans with her, and it would probably help if you do it together. Tell her she is welcome to spend Christmas day with you at YOUR home so that Damian can play with his toys and not have his sleep routine affected. It might be a nice day with both families, and if she doesn't like it she will be free to leave anytime - maybe for the pub across the road? LOL
You could also invite her over and lay down some of your own rules. You are the aprent of her grandson and she has no right to demand anything of you or from you, and this includes visiting her grandchild. If she wants to spend time with him then she needs to build a relationship with him by visiting him at home or meeting you in a park somewhere or for some ther activity.