Re: How do I deal with my two daughters??
Asked by Kybo2261
Hi can you please give me some advice, my 2 daughters are always arguing with each other about silly things like who showers 1st.
I am GA_googleFillSlot("minti_advice_island_logged_out_300x250"); going insane just listening to them, I tell them to hurry up and decide but then they start yelling at me.
What can I do to stop this happening on a daily basis?
Prehaps advise your girls that if they would like to be treated like a big people (not sure how old your girls are?) then they need to respect each other and start to make decisions and share.
another thing would be to tell them since they want to agure with each other, you ahve decided to put into place a schedule.
Grab a calendar and some coloured stickers (different colour) for each child, place the coloured stickers alternately throughout the week/ calendar... then add setting table, upset table, empty bin, feed dog/cat or whatever chores are allocated to the children - then they are shared equally. Prehaps for bathing times add a time for the bathroom for each child, as they will have a sticker each on the same day.
Involve the girls by sitting them down and adding there stickers to the calendar and what chores they have, as involving them, lets them think they have done it and come up with a few ideas themselves...
If they get pocket money then advise then everytime they argue with each other, or disobey or refuse the schedule, take a percentage off there allowance, add to the calendar as a reminder (Gold stars for rewards and red dots for loss of $ with the amount taken off them)
Food rewards - aren't great as that breeds fat kids and everything they expect it.
If has solved many problems, with my sister and I growing up. My sister uses the Schedule with her children x5, along with my cousins, works wonders...
Hope this helps