when i was 12 and a half years old i was running away from home because i wanted to go to a youth group with friends , i had been doing this for a fair while not because of any abuse from my family but i was one of those GA_googleFillSlot("minti_advice_island_logged_out_300x250"); kids that that thought now that im 12 i can do what i want.(poor mum)
One night that i chose to run away i stayed out with people i had thought were friends , they took me down the beach with a couple of bottle of alcohol and being a stupid teenager i drank then. I was then seperated from they rest of the group by one of my old friends and he said lets go for a walk stupid me trusted him, then once i was alone with him he severely sexually assaulted me. Then later that night i was scared if i went home and told my mum what happened that i would get into trouble for putting myself at risk so instead i slept in a public toilet(hugging the base of the toilet bowl) i was terrified because i didnt want to worry my mum but i was so scared because i had major blood clots coming from down there , but by sunrise the next day i thought if mum found me at school i wouldnt be in as much trouble for running away. by now i still hadn't told anybody what had happened to me and was still bleeding severely and very weak but i still went to school anyway .
Part way through my first couple of hours at school i noticed blood going from under my breasts to my toes so i went to the female student nurse and just said to her that i wanted a new change of clothes and a pad or tampon and she first asked me "where all the blood was coming from because it wasnt normal to have that amount of blood that covered nearly your whole body"? and was as thick as a sausage roll (for each blood clot).
At first i was reluctant to say anything but because i was getting weaker by the minute and i ended up saying something and then felt ashamed of doing it and then she said because the amount of blood and what had happened to me that she needed to get me to hospital, but worried me just said i wanted to go back to class with a new set of clothes i was ashamed of myself and embarrassed but she insisted i come with her to the princible and he rang the womans centre and told them what had happened and once they found out they asked one of the teachers to bring me there so the same teacher i told came with me and said i was very brave for saying something and she stayed with me while i got checked at the womens centre but because i was bleeding so bad the womens centre called an ambulance once i got to hospital i had so many doctor looking at me down there.
Then they said i would be needing to be transferred to another hospital that deals with surgeries in that region of my body so 20 minutes later i was being put in a transport ambulance and taken to another hospital once, i got there i was wheeled into a room all by myself and put on all these different heart and blood pressure monitors i was really scared and then they said i couldnt have any food or drink for 6 hours and so i asked them why and they said i had a 20 centremetre tear inside my vagina from how bad he had torn me and because i struggled.
Then he called a child sexuall assault councellor and while they did that i was made to do a rape kit which they got some much evidence from because all the blood contained semin, then they came into my room and asked me to get ready to have a shower to clean off some blood .
Once i got into the shower i heard a knock on my hospital room door so the nurse helping me shower let the person in and i realised it was my mum , i immeadiatly thought i was in trouble and said sorry with tears flowing from my eyes , she said there was nothing to be sorry about she was just happy i am okay and then she helped me shower and stayed with me through surgury and the two weeks of recovery while other family members helped look after my siblings and once i was back home mum went to court and got the guy locked up for what he did to me and even won a compo claim for me.
Since then she has been helping me by still making me go to counselling to this day i love my mum so mum and wouldnt change it for the world please do these thing if this was to happen( hopefully never) and the first one i cant stress enough
DO NOT put the child into the shower to wash them off no matter how dirty they feel until the hospital can do a rape kit because if you put them in a shower you can possibily was off any evident that is present. seek out a qualified child sexuall assualt cousellor for your child because they are going to need it. i dont want this to sound bad but please dont pressure your child to tell you all details, while in hospital they will say somthing to you once they feel ready just be there to support and care explain to them that it was never there fault that it happened to them. go ahead with legal proceedings as soon as possible these people that do this to kids are disgusting and should be castrated and whatever you could think of doing to them . if you were to go for compensation do it within two years of what happened because it you try after that the compensation courts they will not do it just be there trust me it will help.