Realistically speaking, it takes some time to teach men how to give their partner an orgasm. The sad reality is that most men are learning about sex by watching male produced pornography, which leaves them brainless as to a woman's point of view. I don't know that there are even good sources for a woman's point of view.
One of the reasons why sex is so satisfying for men is because they can orgasm easily and consistently. This simple inequality drives pornography, rape, prostitution, sexual harassment, etc etc etc. Power is always in the man's court. It always feels good for men.
Sex does not always feel good for women. A lot of times it feels pretty bad. Sometimes I like to make the analogy for straight men to imagine receiving anal sex from another man. This is usually the cue for men to start getting defensive and insistent that women like sex just fine.
Women! Demand an orgasm! Men are not going to change if they are getting the milk for free. Or if they think they can find someone else who will cater to all their needs so easily. Sometimes I think women should unionize and boycott men until they start paying attention.
Having a great sex life means orgasms and the road to orgasms (for women) is knowing how to masturbate. Go to the bar in a hot dress, get some attention (i.e. feel powerful), then go home and take care of yourself. This way you can have your cake and eat it too (just like a man if he took you home for a drunken tryst which leaves you empty handed).